So… Who do you trust?
So.. who do you trust? This is a really serious and difficult question for people who are new to the kink scene. You want to learn, you’re excited to explore. But who can you trust to help you and not...
View ArticleConsent, control and skydiving.
Some time ago I wrote an article about who’s in control in a D/s relationship. Out of that arose the question of when someone really doesn’t have control. Regardless of your dynamic within a...
View ArticleThe manufacture of stupid
During the London Festival of the Art of Japanese Bondage this year I had one of those ‘really’ moments when I was told about something doing the rounds in America at the moment. Well, if it’s true...
View ArticleRecommendations
Recommendations are a difficult and weighty thing. They are loaded with responsibility. Unfortunately it is often the case that recommendations are made based on what turns out to be a limited...
View ArticleBeginners teaching rope bondage
You need experience to be a good teacher. I’m not saying that it takes decades to get that experience but it does take some time and application. People often argue this need… actually people without...
View ArticleTo a person new to the scene
Hi whoever you are. What would I say to you if you were new to the scene and I was speaking to you directly? The main thing I’d say to you is that the scene is really full of great people, but it’s...
View ArticleExceptional
I see people replying over and over on posts “Oh but there are exceptions” and yet I don’t write general posts based on the exceptional. I give it, based on the generality. Exceptions are just that,...
View ArticleSeeing people
The title of this post is concerned with something that people often do not do. And that is actually see people! By that I mean see the actual person, not what they do, what they look like or how they...
View ArticleRope bondage references
References are a valuable tool for keeping you informed, aware and safe when considering playing with others. I cannot recommend getting references enough, although they are often overlooked and not...
View ArticleThe problem of cellphones in clubs and events
There isn’t one! The problem is in people being dickheads. I’ll elaborate on that a bit… When people take pictures at events where pictures are not allowed; that’s a problem. When people make calls in...
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